In the Middle Ages, a mother might be confined to the home after giving birth for thirty to sixty days. The general idea was that childbirth made a woman spiritually and/or physically unclean for a time, and she was kept separate from much of society until she underwent a purification ceremony at a church or synagogue. The tradition began in the Jewish religion and was adopted by Christians as well.
England wasn’t always strict about this confinement period and churching business. Ideally, a devout Christian mother would attend the ceremony (commonly called “churching”) after giving birth, but she didn’t have to. She still might be confined to the home for a month or so, though.
Some scholars think the confinement was restricting and misogynistic, and it certainly had its roots in some misogynistic ideas (spiritually unclean, excuse you?) But others see it as a sort of medieval maternity leave. The mother was not expected to perform hard labor, have sex, or run errands outside of the home during this time, all of which she was probably expected to do otherwise (especially rural women, who helped work the fields.) It might have given her time to recover and bond with the new baby – childbirth is a difficult event, and medieval mothers faced great danger from birth complications and infection.

Nowadays women are not required to stay at home after birth. Indeed, for many women, that option never presents itself. Maternity in the U.S. is, frankly, abysmal compared to other developed countries – officially, the Family and Medical Leave Act requires that companies with 50+ employees give new mothers 12 weeks of leave. This sounds okay – better than the month typically expected of medieval mothers – except:
1) The leave is unpaid – in lower income or single parent households, mothers cannot afford to take 12 weeks of unpaid leave.
2) If both parents work for the same employer, the employer can divide those 12 weeks between the two parents – the parents don’t get separate leave policies.
3) The baby will only be 3 months old when it is left in the care of relatives, friends, or daycare workers. This is still very young!
4) Daycare costs in the U.S. are high. It is not unusual for a parent to need to choose between working a low-income job and spending a large chunk of it on childcare or risking a dip in household income to stay home with the baby. And of course, that’s only if someone else in the household is working.
5) You may not get leave if you work for a small company.
Compared to Scandinavian and other developed countries, which offer anywhere from 18 to 35 weeks of paid leave for mothers and some for fathers, the U.S. is kinda terrible at taking care of its young families.
This was arguably an issue in the medieval period as well, but there were differences. Rural had to work the fields, go to market, tend the garden, and so on, to keep their households fed and supplied. Very young children might be left in cradles or in the care of elderly friends or relatives. (This wasn’t always a good thing – a relative might just be a barely-older sibling.) Older children, perhaps around five or six years old, often attended their parents on the job. This was far from a perfect system, as rural work around livestock or in the fields could lead to serious accidents.

(Credit: https://www.medievalists.net/2014/06/year-medieval-farm/)
What about urban parents? London parents would have had neighbors to keep an eye on their children, or perhaps a nurse to help with childcare. In many cases the mother was most responsible for the child’s wellbeing and might have stayed home if the family could afford it. Older boys could have apprenticed in shops under their fathers, and older boys and girls might attend school (not everyone did.)
It might have been a great thing for medieval parents if they had a safe place to leave young children during the workday, like a daycare. We have them now, but at least in the U.S., the cost and wait lists are prohibitive for many parents. In the May 2019 Survey of Income and Program Participation, 30% of working families with children under 5 were considered low-income. Of those families, 4 out of 10 could pay for child care, but those payments took up an entire third of their household income. “Child care” in this case meant paying for licensed supervision of their children – a daycare, or preschool, or in some cases, a nanny.
Middle-class families spent 14% of their income on paid child care, according to this survey. The U.S. Department of Health and Human services considers child care “affordable” if it takes up only 7% of household income. That means that even middle-class families with employed parents are paying twice the recommended amount for daycare or nannies!
So what’s the solution? Well, for one thing, we could try to imitate some of those Scandinavian countries with subsidized daycares, paid parental leave, and policies stating that daycare should cost no more than a certain percentage of household income…but that would mean raising taxes. And we can’t have that.
Further Reading:
Barbara Hanawalt, The Ties That Bound: Peasant Families in Medieval England (1986) and Growing up in Medieval London: The Experience of Childhood in History (1993).
Sue Niebrzydowski, “Asperges me, Domine, hyssopo: male voices, female interpretation and the medieval English purification of women after childbirth ceremony” (2011).
Center for American Progress on the cost of child care: https://www.americanprogress.org/issues/early-childhood/reports/2019/06/20/471141/working-families-spending-big-money-child-care/






